taking care of your to-do list
How do people do it? You watch your colleagues and friends carry out their lives in a seamless fashion and see that they have every aspect of their worlds under control.
But after a long day at work, the last thing you want to do is have to cook dinner, make arrangements for that dinner party on the weekend, pay the bills, go shopping – or complete whatever else is piling up on your to-do list. Even your relationship with your partner has been inadvertently put on hold. Even if you had time, you wouldn’t have the energy to give what he or she deserves.
Note to self – your friends and colleagues DO NOT have it all under control and are either a) cutting some corners to get it all done, b) pretending that all is okay when in fact it is not or c) have a personal assistant to help them look so “together”.
A busy work life and social life is all well and good but it means that you as an individual struggle to achieve all that you want to or even need. When you are overworked, the stress can affect all aspects of your life, heightening your emotions and even adversely affecting your relationships with those around you.
Organisation and delegation need not be a nasty word. It is surprisingly easy to hand over certain aspects of your life to a trustworthy and reliable individual leaving you free to do the more important things in life – even for those self-confessed control freaks.
A personal concierge can assist in certain aspects of your life allowing you to meet other more timely deadlines such as those in your work life. Your concierge can do the stuff that is bogging you down and essentially give you permission to take time out for yourself and for those around you.
Now when was the last time you managed to find some real quality time for you and your loved ones?
You can’t do it all and you shouldn’t expect to.
Over the next few posts I will give you some tips to make your busy life run more smoothly and show you why you deserve to have a life and enjoy it!
A common theme among women – and there’s plenty of research to back it up – is that they negotiate like a girl. They’re worried they’ll offend or seem pushy or they are scared they’ll lose their job if they stand their ground.
Women are generally lower paid and have poorer working conditions, and, sadly, some of the fingers are pointing at the fact that women don’t or won’t negotiate “like a man” and, therefore, don’t get what they want.
When men negotiate they focus on the facts and keep their emotions out of it. It’s purely business. We women tend to worry about others and think of their feelings. We become emotionally involved in what should be a simple business transaction.
It is possible to stand your ground, get what you want and still come up smelling of Chanel No. 5.
Before you go into any meeting, know exactly what it is you want to achieve. What do you want, precisely? And what is the absolute minimum you will accept?
This is not necessarily in relation to pay, but also working conditions, responsibilities, environment, status and role …
What’s In It For Them
You know what you want, and what you’ll accept, but a large part of negotiating is what you can offer the other party – i.e. your boss.
Are you worthy of the terms you’re asking for? Are you capable of doing what you say you will do in your new role as department manager or production coordinator …?
Think about what will THEY get out of this new agreement, and show them how they’d be foolish to discount your suggestion.
Know When To Walk Away
All negotiations, even though it may not seem like it, have an area of overlap between what you want and what they want. Finding the common ground is generally easy, but you also need to be open and aware of it. It’s easy to get caught up in what you want and forget what your boss needs – or any other party, for that matter.
Be prepared to agree to terms or walk away. If you’ve asked for the meeting, and you know your limits, you don’t have to take what’s on offer, but you do need to be prepared for nothing to change if you choose not to agree.
If the other party has called the meeting, be prepared to accept less than you want (see the first point about Preparation) or to say “No” and be ok with that.
Stand Your Ground
Mostly, it’s about knowing what you want, and preventing those horrid little voices in your head from having their say, mid-negotiation.
Did you know that being disorganised could be affecting your health? What about your career?
It’s not just about missed appointments, unpaid bills, or forgotten birthdays. Being disorganised can lead to stress, a feeling of “stuckness” and an inability to finish tasks and commitments.
Do you sometimes find yourself starting multiple tasks, either at home or at work, and never finishing any of them?
Do you know what your priorities are?
When you don’t really know what your goals are, it can be quite hard to know where to put your energy. You may start off feeling excited about a project or task, but quickly lose interest as you see the next “shiny thing”. You may feel “scattered”, clueless and confused.
Not having long and short term goals can make your life feel dull and boring, which in turn can lead to depression.
Having a disorganised and cluttered home or office, can stifle your creativity and your ability to take in new information.
There are lots of ways of getting organised and there will be one that works for you.
You can start by decluttering your desk at work, or your kitchen bench at home. Find all the bills and paperwork that needs dealing with. Order then in “date due” order and place them neatly in a place where you’ll be sure to see and deal with them. Perhaps next to your phone or computer would be the best place.
Start using your wall calendar to write in all your important dates and appointments. You might like to invest in a well-designed diary or personal organiser.
Take advantage of the calendar application on your smart phone to set up reminders for appointments, bills and birthdays.
“To do” lists are a great tool for keeping track of all that you have going on and making sure you don’t forget to pay those bills, or buy birthday presents. Often writing out a “To do” list can immediately make you feel lighter, as all the stuff floating around your brain is now on paper.
When you start to feel a bit more organised, take some time to plan your next holiday, or a fun get –together with friends.
Then, when life starts flowing a bit more easily, sit down to work out your life goals and priorities. Organising your life will seem like a breeze when you know exactly what you want to achieve.
(If you think you might need a helping hand with getting organised, give your personal concierge a call)
by Debbie Alford
This week I thought I’d share this article by Katherine Giovanni with you….
Why should you hire a concierge? I can think of a hundred reasons actually. Here are just a few …
People around the world are trying to squeeze thirty-six hours into a twenty-four-hour day, and when you do that you don’t do it very well. If you continue to do it on a regular basis, then eventually your body will resent it and you’ll get sick. Concierge are here to give you your health back. They’re here to give you the extra hours that you have been craving and will do what has to be done, so that you can do want to do like spending more time with your children or spending a few extra hours at work.
Companies around the world are also getting into the act. They are not only starting to use concierge, but they are making them a part of their corporate benefit packages. They are reasoning correctly that the less time people spend running personal errands during the workday, the more time they can spend at their desks and, subsequently, with their families at night.
Still not sure you need a concierge? Here are a few more reasons why you need to hire us …
When looking at these statistics, it is easy to see why time has become the commodity of the century and will be even more so in the decades to come. The popularity of concierge services stems from the fact that people are stressed out, overworked, and need help dealing with life so they can spend their free time nurturing themselves and their families. As good workers become harder to find, businesses are looking for concierge services to offer as perks to keep valuable employees happy.
That being said, below is a list of 20 ways you can use a concierge (the real list of what a concierge can do for you is endless)…
So get your life back! Hire a concierge to do what has to be done so that you can do what you’ve always wanted to do.
About the Author: Katharine Giovanni is an award-winning author and the world’s leading concierge trainer and consultant as well as a Certified Concierge Specialist (CCS) and Speaker. She is one of the founders of Triangle Concierge and is the Chairman of the Board and Founder of the International Concierge and Lifestyle Management Association (ICLMA) as well as the author of several business books including her award-winning book Going Above and Beyond and The Concierge Manual.
by Debbie Alford
On the 19th August I was lucky enough to be featured in the Melbourne Herald Sun. The article caught the eye of the producers of radio station 3AW and I gave my first interview with Ross and John at 6am that morning. They are both fun loving blokes so I proceeded to laugh my way through that one! Next a call came through asking if I had time to be interviewed by Denis Walter at noon – of course I had time! This interview was a little more informative than the first one (I am certainly not at my best at 6am…)
So please click on the link and enjoy!
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