by Debbie Alford
I really should have called this post “the art of the surprise weekend away” because that is what it is about.
I know how hard you both work and how difficult it is to spend time together, let alone have a holiday. Hard work and neglect of each other can really damage your relationship and it’s one of the causes of some professional couples breaking up.
Relationships can get lost in the demands of dual careers and that is sad.
The time when you both have the same weekend free is probably rare so why not schedule it ahead of time? Book it out in your diaries and commit that weekend to yourselves.
Now that you know your dates, surprise your love by taking them away for the weekend. Can you imagine their face when you pick them up but don’t head home? Gradually the smile will spread across their face as they realise what is happening.
Wouldn’t that be a wonderful gift to your partner and to yourself?
I know you are busy so I can do the organising for you. All I need to know is where you’d like to go and what kind of weekend you would love to have. Do you like to laze around or do you prefer action? Do you like the beach or the hills? Do you prefer city or rural places?
I will find the perfect place and book it for you. I can arrange for champagne and flowers on arrival, or perhaps you’d enjoy chocolates. I can research local restaurants and book you a place for dinner. I will book you a hire car or, if you don’t want to drive, arrange a driver for you.
All you have to do is pack your bag (and one for your partner) and run away from the world for a magic couple of days.
Refresh your bodies and minds and rejuvenate your relationship. Weekends together are rare so make them memorable.
by Debbie Alford
Is your career causing your property value to drop?
We’ve all heard of the term “curbside appeal” and we know that is what draws potential buyers in to look through a house which is for sale. Did you know that a home with no curbside appeal is actually valued at a lower price?
One of the biggest turnoff’s for potential buyers is an overgrown garden.
An article called “7 Ways to Devalue Your Property” says “Letting your property fall into disrepair, such as having guttering falling off, unmowed grass, overgrown gardens, peeling paint and cupboard doors hanging off in kitchen will all detract from your home’s overall value.”
Now I know that you might not be planning to sell your home at the moment, but it is important that it is maintained regularly. Small jobs become big, expensive jobs if they are not tended to quickly.
When you open your front door, what do you see? If you see weeds and unweeded garden beds, then it’s time you did some work out there.
I know that you don’t have the time to work in the garden and, even if you did, that’s probably not the way you would choose to spend your day off.
A gardening and maintenance service can be worth its weight in gold. How good would it feel to arrive home after a long day at work and see a neatly mown garden waiting for you? In the warm weather you might even be able to test out that BBQ that was waiting patiently for you behind the overgrown plants.
Call me to organise the maintenance of your property. I find local, reliable tradesmen who will care for your property and make it look fabulous and I will supervise them as they do it.
Home maintenance is not just a lifestyle choice. It’s a sensible investment in the long term value of your property investment.
by Debbie Alford
I know a science professor who has commented that in the past, if her young son was invited to a birthday party, the present had to be bought from Safeway or 7eleven or it just didn’t happen.
You can’t get away with that for very long and you certainly won’t get away with it at Christmas time.
For all the fun that Christmas can be it brings with it a lot of stress. It is hard to find time to shop for food, and even harder to spare time for things which aren’t necessities. The problem is that Christmas gifts are necessities but they are troublesome about it.
I know that when I choose a gift I like to put a lot of thought into it so that I select something that is meaningful and that the recipient will love. When you have a long list of people to buy for it can take up a lot of time.
You probably have some idea of what you would like to buy your friends and family. Just give me your list. I will find prices, shop for the gifts, buy them, wrap them and even arrange their delivery.
You don’t have to battle with queues or fight over the last product on the display. You won’t have the sore feet and blisters that you usually end up with, nor will you have the huge headache when you get home.
Instead you can go home and mix yourself a Christmas cocktail and relax knowing that everything is being taken care of.
Just to make it even better, here is a little cocktail you might like to try. It is called the Chocolate Raspberry Martini and you are going to love it.
Chocolate Raspberry Martini
Chill your ingredients beforehand. Rub the rim of your chilled martini glass with cocoa then pour in the liquids and enjoy. Drop a fresh raspberry into the bottom of the glass, too, if you like. It will look as good as it tastes.
So what will it be? Queues, headaches and stress or home with your shoes off and chilled cocktail in hand? I know what I would choose.
Merry shopping–free Christmas to you!
by Debbie Alford
You know that your car has needed a service for some time now, but when do you find the time to do it? It’s a whole day you’re carless and trying to fit a carless day into a busy lifestyle is not exactly easy.
Until, of course, it gets to that point where warning lights are flashing and something either starts clunking and thumping or it stops working altogether. Then you’re left with no choice. Things have become urgent and if you don’t do something about it, you’ll be carless for longer than a day.
You sneak a look at your partner but you know he or she is struggling to meet deadlines at work, too. There won’t be any help there. In fact, their car probably needs a service.
Ah well, you will work something out. You’ll book the car in for a service when you get to work…..
The day passes in a blur of work and meetings, then suddenly it’s over and it’s too late to ring because the mechanic will be closed.
How fabulous would it be to handball this job to someone else? You have a personal assistant at work. Now you need a personal assistant at home.
A personal concierge can do it all for you, from making the booking, delivering the car to the mechanic and returning it back home for you. I will even make sure you stay on the road during the process, so it’s far less painless than it has ever been in the past.
Your time is too valuable to spend it twiddling your thumbs while you wait for the car to be serviced. Don’t waste your time. Use my time instead. Call me!
by Debbie Alford
Divorce is difficult for everyone; however women often seem to manage better emotionally after divorce than men. Many men return to dating before they have taken the time to heal.
Divorce is the death of a relationship. Any death brings grief with it and it has to be dealt with before moving on. The worry is that men try to solve their loneliness before they resolve their grief and that isn’t healthy.
Women approach their post-divorce life differently. Usually they allow themselves to cry, using their friends and family as supportive crutches for their emotions. They talk about how they are feeling and that’s a good thing. It’s as though once it’s exposed to the light, the load is easier to carry.
Unlike women, men have a tendency to keep their feelings to themselves, rarely confiding in their friends to help them through. They keep their feelings locked inside and the problem with that is that it eats away inside and makes it difficult to move on and form new relationships.
Unresolved emotion is a time bomb so it’s no surprise that the incidence of depression is high in divorced men yet the subject is hardly discussed. Isn’t that sad?
Women tend to use the time immediately after divorce to positively reconnect with friends and family. They know that they don’t have to put on a happy front all the time. Having this social support in place is a big factor in being able to bounce back after such an extremely stressful event.
Men, this is a lesson you need to learn. It is important for you to meet with others on a social level, even if you don’t particularly feel like it. Accepting invitations from both family and friend is a great way to begin. Start out where you feel safe and with people who understand what you’ve been through.
Take a leaf from the female’s book and allow yourself to experience and express your emotions in a healthy way. It’s the only way you’ll be able to move on as a happy and whole person.
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