by Debbie Alford
Why is it so hard to ask for help? I often wonder about that, especially as it is my job to give people help when they need it.
I decided to ask that question and see what I could find out. These were some of the answers I got.
“I feel like a failure if I have to get someone to come and help me.”
“Everyone else seems to manage so I should be able to.”
“No one will understand what I need.”
“I guess it could be pride?”
“I’d rather give than take.”
“It feels like I’m giving up on myself.”
“Why should someone else have to do it just because I can’t?”
“I don’t want people to know that I am struggling”
Isn’t that a sad collection of answers? Why are we so much more concerned about what others think than we are about our own needs? Do you realise that by not asking for help you are only digging yourself further and further into a hole? You just won’t get anywhere or, if you do, it will take you ages.
If there is one thing that successful people have in common, it’s the ability to recognise when they need help and to ask for it. They understand that it’s an opportunity to learn something new and to grow.
Heavens, if Branson can ask for help, can’t you?
The best way to ask is to be direct and specific. That takes your emotion out of the situation and it becomes a very business-like process. If it makes you feel more comfortable, offer your help on a project of theirs in exchange.
Day 2 Day Personal Concierge was created so that I can help shoulder your load. There is no shame in asking for my help. It’s a practical decision that lets you achieve far more than you would have done while you struggle with what is holding you back.
Don’t sit there and worry. Just pick up the phone and call me. Together we will get you moving forward.
Asking for help Australia birthday parties birthday party booking flights Buy groceries Christmas gift ideas concierge services Debbie Alford decluttering gift certificates hear from your personal concierge help around the home help for new mums help for professional couples help for the single girl help for the single guy helping hand holiday tips Home Tips house key minding internet research just arrived in Melbourne lessen your stress Lifestyle management Melbourne more organised moving house moving to Melbourne new in Melbourne party organising party organizer party planning Personal Assistant Personal Concierge personal concierge melbourne Personal Concierge Services rubbish removal Send out invitations staff recognition taking care of your to-do list to do list travel clothes travel planner unpacking
Taking Time off to Wait for Tradies?
How much time off work have you taken to stay at home waiting for a tradesman to arrive? We can do that for you and clean out a few cupboards or fold some washing while we are waiting.
Running out of Time to Buy that Present?
I know a science professor who has commented that in the past, if her young son was invited to a birthday party, the present had to be bought from Safeway or 7eleven or it just didn't happen.
Want to Have a Party But it’s all Too Hard?
Is it really that time of year already? My, how the year goes past so quickly. Party time! You may find you are running out of time, so many bits and pieces to source -Delegate the job to us, not a problem.
Going on Holiday and Need House Key Minding?
So you are off on a holiday, wonderful! Whilst you are away, we will collect your mail, feed the dog/cat, take your dog for a walk and if need be, pay some bills for you. We can even stock the fridge with some essentials for your return.