You’re out of the house, away on business and as you check yourself out in the mirror you’re confronted with a run in your tights or a hanging hem, and your button pops off in shock! Of course you don’t have access your fully stocked sewing kit, do you? Typical.
What do you do?
Here are seven simple and quick emergency clothing repairs (and some items to keep handy!)
Remember, these are temporary fixes, and will need a good seeing to once your night, trip or meeting is over, but they will see you through the crucial stages when you need them to!
A common theme among women – and there’s plenty of research to back it up – is that they negotiate like a girl. They’re worried they’ll offend or seem pushy or they are scared they’ll lose their job if they stand their ground.
Women are generally lower paid and have poorer working conditions, and, sadly, some of the fingers are pointing at the fact that women don’t or won’t negotiate “like a man” and, therefore, don’t get what they want.
When men negotiate they focus on the facts and keep their emotions out of it. It’s purely business. We women tend to worry about others and think of their feelings. We become emotionally involved in what should be a simple business transaction.
It is possible to stand your ground, get what you want and still come up smelling of Chanel No. 5.
Before you go into any meeting, know exactly what it is you want to achieve. What do you want, precisely? And what is the absolute minimum you will accept?
This is not necessarily in relation to pay, but also working conditions, responsibilities, environment, status and role …
What’s In It For Them
You know what you want, and what you’ll accept, but a large part of negotiating is what you can offer the other party – i.e. your boss.
Are you worthy of the terms you’re asking for? Are you capable of doing what you say you will do in your new role as department manager or production coordinator …?
Think about what will THEY get out of this new agreement, and show them how they’d be foolish to discount your suggestion.
Know When To Walk Away
All negotiations, even though it may not seem like it, have an area of overlap between what you want and what they want. Finding the common ground is generally easy, but you also need to be open and aware of it. It’s easy to get caught up in what you want and forget what your boss needs – or any other party, for that matter.
Be prepared to agree to terms or walk away. If you’ve asked for the meeting, and you know your limits, you don’t have to take what’s on offer, but you do need to be prepared for nothing to change if you choose not to agree.
If the other party has called the meeting, be prepared to accept less than you want (see the first point about Preparation) or to say “No” and be ok with that.
Stand Your Ground
Mostly, it’s about knowing what you want, and preventing those horrid little voices in your head from having their say, mid-negotiation.
by Debbie Alford
Whether it’s happening at work or in your relationship, and as stressful and horrible as it can feel at the time, some competition is actually a good thing.
A really good thing!
Think about it; you’re cruising along at work, getting everything done in the time frames you’re given, your boss is impressed with you and you’re simply … cruising.
Suddenly, a new girl arrives. She’s not bad, you think. She’s a little more efficient, and not scared to share her ideas on how things could be improved, or to implement a new system.
You were THAT person, but suddenly you have competition. Surely this calls for some crying under the doona and taking the rest of the girls out for a drink and a bitch-session, right?
Perhaps it isn’t as bad as it seems? While you might feel happy just cruising along day to day, content with your workload and ticking off your list, weren’t you really starting to get just a little bored? Perhaps you feel a little complacent?
Competition can force you to ‘step up’, take some initiative or speak up about something that’s been bothering you. It can cause you to move towards the edges, and take a tentative step out of your comfort zone. It may offer you a promotion or movement upwards – or out of – a company.
Even in your relationships, whether romantic and intimate, or with your friends or work colleagues, competition can help you to address the monotony. How dare she become friends with your friends? They were yours first, weren’t they? Who does she think she is, going out with them tonight….. Oh, I said no when they asked, didn’t I? I just couldn’t be bothered going out…
Competition forces you to see things differently. It shows you what is important to you and what isn’t. Competition forces you to take action and make decisions. It shows you how to lift your game in life.
Competition can help shape you into a better person and that can only be a good thing.
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